How was you become washer death and since when do you practice?
My aunt washer death in Morocco for many years, so every summer I was entitled to a reminder from him el hamduliLah. Then one day – coming back from vacation – I am informed that theoretical training in mortuary washing takes place in a mosque. so I jumped at the chance. An afternoon full of knowledge and full of emotions. At the end of the seat, our dear sister Yamina (my trainer, may Allah grant him el Firdaous) offers us leave our contact details to begin practice. Some time later, she contacted me and from there began my adventure in the funeral world.
I remember my first washing, it was held in Montreuil Hospital (93). At the entrance welcomes us a man dressed in a white coat who asks us to follow him in the basement.The atmosphere is very cold, there is very little lighting and the silence of death is heard. The laundry room is surrounded by many fridges. I, who had never seen a dead, I realize more when the head is responsible to recover the body of the deceased by opening the doors of the fridge. A very emotional moment, the daughters of the deceased is present, we must be strong enough to take this time to invite them to patience and acceptance of the decree of Allah azawajel.
After washing, subhannaLlah my “training” has moved two minutes from my house, so it was an opportunity for me to educate myself on the long term. Every month or week she contacted me that I might assist in its washes. So I washed fetuses, children, youth (21 to 35), adults and the elderly, as well as difficult cases (injured). Yamina the sister took me under his wing for a year to repeat the actions of the various cases and it is almost two years since I became washer death by the grace of Allah.
Briefly, e n What is the mortuary washing?
This is to cover the ‘awrah of the deceased, undress him and let the hair. It must also be clear what is inside her very gently massaging to make out what it contains and wash private parts. Say the name of Allah then give him ablution like that of prayer ” Wash it three times, five times or more if you see the need but wash it with water and jujube and put in the water you use to wash the last camphor or a little camphor. Then when you’re done call me “(Al-Bukhari, Muslim). It is desirable to do ghusl (major ablution) from the mixture of water and jujube (Sidr) and put camphor in the final wash. If the deceased is a woman, we will make three braids with her hair. We anoint the body parts that touch the ground when we prostrate (Sujud).
Why is it so important in Islam?
Wash the death, shroud, pray over him and bury is a community obligation -fard kifâya- so that if some Muslims in ensuring execution, sin to fail in this obligation does not strike other .
Can you tell us how to organize your day a mortuary washing (contact family ritual passage)?
The family – or the funeral – contact me the day before or a few days before telling me the date, time and place of the wash. I then prepared my suitcase with my material (shroud, sidr, soap, camphor, cotton, scissors, etc.) and I contact some sisters who attended the trainings I organize so that they assist me (with the authorization of the family of the deceased beforehand). On the day, I arrive at the agreed place and I 1h watch in hand (not a minute longer) to conduct washing and setting beer (deposit of the body in the casket) before the commissioner come seal the coffin. Generally, washes take place in the morning allowing me to have time for my family, and my other occupations.
How your environment perceives your business?
At first my mother was afraid for me. She feared that I can not stand the sight of a dead body, lifeless. But gradually, she accepted my desire to help our deceased sisters and today encourages me more than anything el hamduliLah. As for the rest of my entourage, some take it as a reminder and others prefer not to broach the subject.
How do you feel every day?
In everyday life, I am faced with two sources of emotions: there are those that come from contact with the bodies of the deceased and those raised by the relationship with the bereaved families. The first allow me to remind me every day of the destructive pleasures and try to improve myself every day imagining myself in their place and the second touched me deeply because I am getting lots of scenarios on the death of a close, separation, the absence of such a person, patience, all these things scare me. Fear not wait against the decree of Allah azawajel [Abu Hurayrah (radhiallahu ‘anhu), the Prophet (alayhi wasallam) said: “God Almighty said:” For My slave believer who lost his beloved people of this world and waits in the hope of My reward. Do not have more than Paradise. “(Reported by Al Bukhari)]
What impact this activity has on your faith?
It helps me to detach myself from this world, trying to best prepare for the encounter with my Lord, but it makes us not pious far away, may Allah guide us!
Some advice for us on how to behave following the death of a loved one (bereavement, funerals, …)?
I would recommend:
– Say “إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون” ( “We belong to Allah and to Him will we return”): “And made good tidings to the patient, who say when afflicted with calamity:” Certainly we are Allah’s and to Him we shall return ‘ “(S.2 V.156)
– Be patient even if it is tough because the award is as great as proof: Abu Musa (radhiallahu ‘anhu), the Prophet (alayhi wasallam) said: “When the slave God loses one of his children, God told his angels: “Did you remove the soul of the son of so and so?” They say, “Yes.” He said, “So you have gathered the fruit of his heart?” They say, “Yes.”He asked, “What did My slave then?” They say: “He rented T’a and said,” We belong to God and to Him we return. ” God Almighty said: “So Build for My slave a house in Paradise and Call it” The House of praise. ” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi) or, as Abu Hurayrah (radhiaAllahu ‘anhu), the Prophet (alayhi wasallam) said: “God Almighty said:” For My believing slave who lost his beloved people of this world and who waited in the hope of My reward. Do not have more than Paradise. “(Reported by Al Bukhari).
– Do not innovate or commit forbidden either in funeral rites or other (eg laments, wash with zam-zam water, read the Koran on the death etc. ..).
Finally, death is the best reminders, what would you tell your brothers and sisters?
Death is a very serious event because it leads to the first home of the Hereafter. And he who dies, his resurrection came and judgment begins, and the reward or punishment.When the servant remembers, it encourages him to prepare and stock up for the Day of Resurrection.
Fear Allah and know that Allah preserve you, that there is in fact to remember the death of many benefits for remembering the dead: the heedless hearts wake the dead hearts back to life, the servant turns more towards Allah. Remembering the dead, we are no longer carefree and we turn away more than obedience to Allah. And know that smart is one that challenges and works for after death and that the low is the one who let his soul follow her passions and false hopes.
O Allah grant us the benefit of the guidance of Your Book and allows us to follow the Sunnah of your Prophet Mohammad sallaa Allahu alayhi wa sallam and helps us O Lord to prepare for the Day of Resurrection, let us die at the peak submission facilitates us when the two angels’ salam alayhim we will examine in the Grave, preserve us from the punishment of the grave and Hell and make us the people of Paradise. I say this and ask Allah for forgiveness for me and you and all Muslims for all the sins committed. Ask Him for forgiveness because He will forgive you, He is indeed the Forgiving, the Most Merciful.
PS: for interested sisters, I organize theoretical training (whose dates are displayed progressively on my blog ) you can also contact me (contact details below).